Skip to main content

Your Story

We love stories. People love hearing stories. We live with stories we made up and hear constantly. Fact is there isn't much truth in stories. Most stories are told by our own experiences and perspectives. Our stories are our own; they belong to us individually. So the stories told by other people do not necessarily apply to us. In most cases, they mislead our self-judgement and let us astray. 

Also, general stories we tell ourselves (based on what is deemed as normal and in reference to the past) are not necessarily correct. Stories are essentially what they literally mean, according to Oxford dictionary: "an account of imaginary or real people and events told for entertainment." They are all completely made up. We established our capabilities based on our stories from past experiences. Having said that, what you were yesterday does not predetermine who you are today or tomorrow. 

Let me give you a perfect example of a flawed story: Time. One of the main excuses for not putting in the hard work or blame for not being able to achieve something is time. Trust me, I'm guilty of having told myself this story countless of time. However, this is the brutal and honest truth: we all HAVE time to do things we would rather do. Think about it. 

Something else we associate with work is that it is a pain. We would gladly avoid work at all costs, because of the story we told ourselves- the story that work is hard and not fun. It was not until recently that I fully got to embrace the goodness of hard work. When you put meaning to all tasks you have to do, you find purpose and the joy of getting something done. You feel empowered and are able to write a new story. 

Forget about all the stories in your head. Make new ones. Build new ones. It's all in your hands.
Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Positive Affirmations

I have always been a great affirmer of positive reinforcements. Positive affirmations bring light in our life. Our thoughts have a tendency to be negative. How many times do you feel like you are being thrown over the edge? We are quick to succumb to doubt, anger, fear.  Deep inside, we are strong, fearless and confident human beings. However, all these positive innate qualities are buried as we grow up, due to criticism, embarrassment and judgement. Our family has expectations from us, everybody seems to know what's best for you. At a young age, it doesn't really matter. Our mind is not fully developed, so we take in everything, without really questioning its significance. Truth is we don't know the impact until much later. Indirectly, we let our inner desires fade away in the process; we don't know any better. We do what we must, based on society's beliefs of the definition of success. Unfortunately, when we don't follow our heart comes a deep sense of un...
Post a Comment
Read more

Developing Daily Habits

I was made aware of this concept whilst I was reading the book 'The Slight Edge' by Jeff Olson. We have the ability to choose what we want to do with our lives. The distinction between those people who are successful- not referring to financial gain- and those who are unsuccessful comes down to habits. What is it you are making every day that is bringing you forward towards achieving your dreams/ goals. What is it you are doing that is moving you away from your dreams? Successful people do what unsuccessful people don't do. They are committed to self-development, growing, doing what it takes every single day- the mundane actions. Take for example, reading 10 pages a day compounded over time leads to a great deal of pages read. You don't have to start big, but create a momentum. Daily repetitive actions over time lead to accumulation of wealth. The problem here is that not many of us are willing to do those actions every day. We are quick to sink to old habits, we a...
Post a Comment
Read more

Gratitude

As this year comes to a close, I believe the most rewarding action to take is to list down all the things you are grateful for. It will be a gateway to reflect on all that happened during the year. It'll be an opportunity to unwind and see all the blessings you received. Sometimes what appears to be challenging and undesirable turned out to be a learning curve.  This is the time to be reminded of all the lessons learnt. Life has so much to teach us, but all lessons are learnt within and kept inside. Be aware that we have all that we need at any given time. I'm grateful for 2017 and all that it came with. Count your blessings.
Post a Comment
Read more