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Grapevine

Grapevine is toxic and it serves no purpose other than to make one (the gossiper) feels better. The problem with this is that you rely on others to be happy. It is really a waste of time and energy. If it is genuine and being informed make us want to reach out to that person, then it's almost respectable. However, to gossip with the sole purpose of ridiculing, making you feel better, spreading false rumours is despicable and a mistake sometimes we indulge into. 

I've recently heard a few things that I would have preferred to be spared of. Anyway, when I look at it at first glance, I felt nothing. Then I felt hurt and sad- sad for the people who resort to such activities and sad for the negativity it creates. Of course, I've learnt not to take things personally (because it's not a problem of mine, it's their own issue) and that things happen for a reason. With this in mind, I thought of what I had to learn from this situation. It's during these painful moments that you realise how strong you are. It also keeps me grounded. It's a reality check because there will always be people who even if you try, still persists to remain the way they are (because they find comfort with their current life situation).

I want this world to become a harmonious place where we can all cherish each other, in the highs and lows of life. I believe judging and criticising when you're not in someone's shoes is completely reprehensible. There's nothing to gain from it. Lesson learnt is to stay away from the ill-intentioned people and to surround yourself with those who mean well. Above all, remember that life loves you. 


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