Steph's Ripples

I spent a lot of time wishing that I was someone else. I want to be more of this and that. I didn't find anything wrong in this. It came the time when I realised how silly this was. It was not unreasonable, but still it was wishful thinking. The truth is that I was not accepting myself. I was not okay with who I was. I mean no one is perfect. We're all full of flaws, but instead of embracing all the qualities I had, I was focused on things I lacked. Obviously, this made me unhappy and I was seeking something that I don't even truly wish for. This is because my lack made up for excuses.  It's humbling to understand that, in the end, you've got only you. You've got to love yourself the way you are, be authentic, be You through and through. It's not easy, but I think when we embrace who we are, life becomes seemingly better. You are able to see life in a different eye. It changes your perspective. It makes you become more open. Open to everything. Acce...

The reason we all get worried, anxious or stressed is simply because of uncertainty. The future is a mystery. We have no certainty about how things will turn out. We can never be 100% sure of an outcome. Often, life takes us by surprise. Often, unexpected happenings occur. Often, things don't go as planned. In spite of all, we have to continue moving forward. We cannot afford to stay stagnant. Life is worth living for all it has to offer. So any time doubts start creeping and making their way into your mind, accept them and don't dwell on them. There are so much more to do. Focus on things that matter to you. 

In life, there will be doubters. There will be challenges. There will be errors. However, we all have the ability to accept all these. Make them inclusive and not mutually exclusive. Acceptance is an option available to all of us. Take it. Grab it. Seize it.

I found that plenty of us like to complain. We complain about everything, from the weather to the news., little mundane things to bigger aspects of our lives. It's as if we are constantly on an edge, waiting for the next opportunity to attack, get a go at something- a sad attempt at letting go of what's bothering us.  What we fail to realise is that complaining is not the solution. It's never is. Complaining puts us in a victim position, where we feel we are at the mercy of circumstances and have no control whatsoever in taking action. We are at the mercy of what's happening to us. We are being reactive on what we can't control instead of being focused on what we can control. Your ability to choose a way to make things better is always present. Complaining looks like it will make us feel better, but it doesn't. Actually, it gives more power to pain and suffering. So stop complaining and accept everything that happens as they do. Choose to enjoy life as ...